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The Forty-Eight, Unplug & Unwind

In a day and age where we are all plugged in all the time it is hard to imagine time without any technology. But here friends, I challenge you to do something that is liberating and eye opening.

Go without technology of any kind for 48 hours straight.

No computer. No phone. No TV. No radio. And don’t go to the countryside to do this. Do it right in your normal hub. No excuses.

I did this as a part of a class requirement back in my introductory Telecommunications classes at my University. It was meant to show how much technology is ingrained into modern culture and daily life. My other professors were informed that during a 2 week period I would go technologically dark. My friends would leave sticky notes on my door to let me know of plans or if they were stopping by and just missed me.

For a millennial these are strange concepts, but for those who are older and remember these times this may be a nice practice to get back to the simplicity of life without WiFi. You older generations are no better than we are. Don’t play the shocked victim, you are all just as guilty. So give it a try.

Tell your co-workers, friends and loved ones you are doing this beforehand so people don’t panic when you do decide to do this.

Is there a TV in your normal bar/coffee shop? Sit with your back to it or consciously be aware of its presence as you avert your eyes to people in front of you. Engage others. Tell them what you are doing, it’s a great conversation starter. Start reading that book you always wanted to start but never had time for.

Make a journal of your experiences, stress, and observations of others. People watch. What habits have others developed because of this technology addiction? Call your friends out for paying more attention to their phone than to you when you are hanging out.

Challenge yourself and challenge others.

I will say that the first 24 hours are incredibly difficult. But stay strong. You can make it and honestly you may want to try it again sometime (But maybe for not as long).

Have fun. Do things you don’t normally do but think about. Sit at a coffee shop, go on a walk, play with puppies at the pet store, whatever!

Report back here on what you’ve done or how you felt afterwards.

The sky is the limit. Just remember: No selfies.

 

Exposed: The Young False Prophet

I’ve always been the person to turn to for advice. I don’t know what divine power or whatever decided that I was the person to turn to for all of the answers in the universe but it just happened that way.

For one I look and carry myself in a way that does not reflect my age. At the ripe age of 22 I am often mistaken for someone in their thirties. Now I don’t look that way (At least I don’t think I do) it’s just my disposition.

I have no experience with the situations people bring before me  since they all lead down the road of relationships. I had two relationships that both ended once we went long distance. It’s just the nature of the beast.

You have to be able to cut through the superfluous feelings and get to what is really going on: is  there another player in this game of love?, are you overreacting to a text message he/she probably didn’t put any thought into sending? (Probably and almost always yes.)

For relationship advice I’ve found it helps to know the backstory, of course, but also just the facts. Human behavior is fascinating but when we try to describe certain points of a situation we dabble in the tiny details rather than the bigger picture. So if there is ever a freak out you probably need a different, uninvolved perspective so you can take some time to look at the bigger perspective yourself.

However, the key in this part of the advice process is to actually listen.

Do you have to take anything your friend says to heart? Absolutely not. It’s their opinion and their observation but you may be able to alter your perspective just enough to understand your situation if you do listen.

Like I said the facts vary and the advice changes. How the heck do I pull this wisdom beyond my years out of my thin air? And more importantly, why can’t I ever use it when making my own decisions?

It’s narcissistic writing about how hospitable I am but you know sometimes I want to kick back and relax.

 

via Daily Prompt: Exposed